I have been asking myself the question lately, what makes someone really happy the majority of the time? I mean we all know a few people in our lives that no matter what is going on around them, every time you see them they have a big smile on their face, they are cheerful, bubbly & have a glow about them. They seem soo full of life, energy, and enthusiasm. Nothing really seems to ever bother them too much of not for very long in that case.
Then on the other hand - we know people who find every day a mission. Life becomes a chore, nothing really excites them in life, they can be quite negative, and pessimistic.
Sooo what makes the difference between a happy & unhappy person?
Well I was thinking and over the years have observed in my own journey and also in other peoples lives that Happy people do and think in a certain way that depressed & unhappy people don't. The following are a few ideas I have observed.
1.) Happy people usually have a Compelling Vision! What does this mean ur asking? Well even the Bible says in Proverbs 29:18 "Where there is not Vision the people perish" Happy people tend to have a vision bigger than themselves! It is what they live and breathe for each day! It's like their purpose for life. Something that excites them, It is the fuel that ignites the fire in them towards their passion and dreams. They have a career that they love, and enjoy! they are living out their life purpose. They follow their own path of happiness and dreams by following their heart - rather than doing anything because of what anyone else wants them to do.
Unhappy people - tend to be lacking vision! purpose, passion! They don't have a clear vision for what they are here on earth to become. They usually stuck in a Job which stands for (just over broke) They don't really enjoy, but stay there because it's paying just enough money to pay their bills each week and maybe a few dollars left over to party in the weekend. They live week to week, paycheck to paycheck. Or if they do have a career that makes them good money etc it could be that they are living the career that is not really in alignment with their lifes purpose or passion, in some cases they are living their parents dreams or passion. This is not always the case, but can definately seem to happen. If this relates to you then my advice is to always follow your own path - for yourself and no one else. Because if you dont you will never be truly happy.
2.) Happy people have a Positive Attitude! they usually very optimistic. They think good thoughts, they are focused on their future, and dont dwell too much at all on their past. They know that the past doesn't equal their future, and you can't change it so why dwell on it any more. They are focused on the present and the future.
Unhappy people - can be very negative and pessimistic about everything. They seem to dwell alot in their past, the bad stuff that happened to them that they think is the reason to stay unhappy today. Which is not the case at all. They find it hard to let go of the past and stuff that happend to them, they can hold onto alot of anger, unforgiveneess, resentment, and many other negative feelings, and tend to use their past as an excuse to why they can ever be happy now. They play the role of the Victim! While in this state of mind - and holding onto all these negative emotions they will find it very hard to feel happy and move on. This is why it is soo important to let go of the past, and all these negative emotions because they are not good for you, your body and your state of mind.
3.) Happy people - Love themselves! Not inlove with themselves, but love who they are, they accept themselves exactly the way God made them. They do things that make them feel happy, alive and energized. They feed themselves good stuff to nourish their bodys, minds and spirits. Ie: They eat healthy foods most of the time, because they know the importance of good health, and exercise regulary which is very good for longevity, good health, releasing endorphins and many other benefits. Happy people also tend to feed their minds with positive things, whether it be reading personal growth books, to hanging out with other positive people & they feed their spirits by taking time out for themselves, whether that be self reflection, going to the beach, meditation, yoga, church, and many other ways that connects them with the fullness of who they are. They usually are very well balanced in all 3 areas of the body, mind and spirit.
Unhappy people usually very out of balance and intouch with either 1 or all 3 areas of the body, mind and spirits. Unhappy people dont always seem to really like themselves. they can have low self esteem, confidence and belief in themselvs, and contantly battling with who they are, wishing they were someone else, or had the life of someone else.
I have listed 3 main ideas that I have observed in happy & unhappy people.
Also in my own journey in life, I sure know what it was like to be very unhappy and unfulfilled. I use to be very out of balance in my life emotionally, physically and spiritually. I would be a people pleaser, and living my life from what other people wanted me to do and be. I guess being quite a sensitive person, I always wanted to keep everyone happy, but what I learnt the hard way was that - no matter what you can't and never will please everyone, and you are the most important person in YOUR life because your the only one you have to live with the rest of your life 24/7. So you have to always follow your own happiness, your own path, listen and follow your heart and always stay true to yourself. Becaue If your being your true authentic self and really embrace and accept the person God has made you then your going to naturally be alot happier person, life will flow, you will attract great things and great people into your life. You will find your lifes purpose because you will be lead to it when your in that state of flow.
So to conclude a few final notes to summarise everything.
- Make sure you have a compelling vision! that is bigger than yourself that excites, motivated and would give you ultimate fulfilment in life. This perhaps is your life purpose! & if you dont yet know what it is or don't have one, then my advice would be to take some time out this week for yourself go the beach, or wherever you feel fresh and inspired, maybe even take a journal and write down any ideas or thoughts that come to your mind. Firstly you may want to ask your higher self whatever you may call it - The universe/God, etc to help you with this. Sometimes a good question to ask is not always "what do I want? But what does life/God/The universe want from me? We all are called for a special purpose in life you just have to find it within what it is :-)
- Keep your attitude positive - Stay optimistic about life and the future, love life and life will love you back! you will aways attract whatever you focus on this is the law of attraction. So stay focused on the present moment and the future and release the past once and for all, and remember the past doesn't equal the future.
and last but not least - Love and accept yourself as you are! Embrace who you are to the fullest!
Always be an original! Dont die a copy!
Feed your body mind and spirit with great nutrients, oxygen, and positive things. Stay well balanced!
Peace & Love
Julia Huzziff :-)xox
Beautifully said Julia. Keep up the great posts ;)
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